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If you’ve been with someone for a long time and have said, or thought, “our love has grown cold” then here are some things that may help you rekindle the passion you once had.

It is important to remember though that with any long term relationship passion tends to ebb and flow like the tides, and you may not both be at ‘high tide’ at the same time. This can be frustrating but it’s important to understand that it’s perfectly normal and it isn’t any kind of rejection from your partner and it’s not a sign that your relationship is doomed.

This is especially true as you both start to get a little older and / or the stress of work, and family come into play. At these times it’s very important that the two of you are able to talk to each other openly and honestly.

Here are some things you can do to spice things up, some of these are fairly common but others may be new to you, have fun:

1. What did the two of you like to do when you first met? What type of dates did you go on, how did you dress. I’ll bet you both spent more time on your appearance when you first started dating than you do now. This is a simple thing to change. Make your next date night an adventure, really dress up and make it something memorable. Get ready in separate bathrooms if possible so you can regain some of that excitement of seeing each other all dressed up and looking good.

We all tend to fall into ruts and it can really help the two of you feel a connection if you try to recapture some of that early excitement.

2. Everyone wants to feel special and loved, and what better way to make your partner feel loved and special than to surprise them with a little gift, on a Tuesday ( or any day that isn’t a ’special’ day). If you’re going out to get groceries, or dinner, or to the dry cleaners, why not pick up something for your sweetie? It doesn’t have to be anything expensive, and it doesn’t have to just be flowers or candy, but make it something that you know your mate would enjoy.

Maybe a silly card that will make them laugh, how about that movie they’ve always loved, a silly little stuffed animal, whatever. Just as long as it’s something that would have a personal meaning for your partner. Jewelry may be a great gift for some people but it is such a cliche that it may just not seem that personal.

Before you pick out a gift think about the person you’re buying it for and make it something special for them. Don’t limit yourself to candy or jewelry because that’s what the t.v. ads make you think you should do, consider if it’s something your partner would really like…that’s what makes a really great gift.

3. To truly rekindle passion you need to be relaxed, both of you. So if you want to do something special why not take a day and go to a spa for massages? Then out to a nice restaurant, and maybe a play or movie then home to a night of love. Spending the day together doing nothing but relaxing and enjoying each others company is the best way to deepen your bond and increase intimacy.

So, the next time you have the thought: “our love has grown cold” just remember that there are some simple, and fun, things you can do to increase the intimacy between you and your partner.

When your love goes sour, you lock yourself away from the world. It’s hard to deal with reality when everything just reminds you of your ex. You feel as if a part of you has been ripped shred into smithereens. Life goes on. Before you work on the aspects of your failed relationship, you need to work on yourself first.

Then you can move on and try to save your relationship. You talk to them and show them why they should take you back. You even apologize for the things you didn’t do. You make promises and basically beg. Even if you’ve done everything within your power, they become more and more defensive. The further you push, the worse things become. Is this the way to go? No one deserves to go so low. In fact, you should love yourself more. In fact, you will even regret what you do and see that you’ve done things that leave you feeling ashamed.

Love shouldn’t make you look ridiculous. Instead, it should give you a feeling of satisfaction. There are millions of books and magazines that talk about how you should handle relationships. But these things don’t really help much when things just seem to look like it’s beyond saving. T Dub has discovered the true recipe for love. He gives you a step-by-step plan of what to do without making you look like a fool. The key move here is to keep your dignity intact, and that’s the best part about it.