If you are in an unhappy relationship and you’ve really tried to work things out, with no luck, than it’s time to face the sad fact that even though the two of you are still together, your relationship is over. Now comes the hard part…the leaving. Here are some tips that may help you find the strength to sever those ties to a bad relationship so that both of you can move on and find happiness again.

1. The first thing you will need to do is make sure that you’re not running away from the problem. If the relationship is an important one like a long romance, friendship, or a marriage, than you have to be honest with yourself as to whether or not you’ve really tried to deal with the issues. Of course, if your partner is unwilling to try to work on the relationship at all then there’s nothing you can do on your own and it’s time to leave.

Once you’ve thought it out and have come to the conclusion that it’s just time to be done, then you have to find the conviction to finish it. This isn’t the time to waffle back and froth. It will just make the whole process much more difficult and painful. Once you’ve made that decision and really thought it all out carefully, don’t back down because you get scared. Leave.

2. When it comes time to let your partner know that it’s over, and that you’re leaving, you have some options. Of course we’ve all heard the stories of the tacky person who just sent a text message or an email. While it’s usually best to break up in person, if your partner might get violent than by all means send them a text. It’s important that you are as decent about the breakup as possible but that doesn’t mean you have to potentially put yourself at risk.

3. Make sure that when you breakup you make it perfectly clear that you’ve thought it through and that you’re convinced this is the right thing to do. It’s very likely that your partner will try to talk you out of your decision or even try to make you feel guilty. You can’t give in to that pressure, for both of your sakes. You have the right to decide whether or not the relationship is what you want and you have the right to end it whenever you want to.

Make it clear that you don’t want any contact with your ex and you don’t want them to try to call you. Don’t be wishy washy and make it sound like you’re just ‘taking a break’ when you know full well that it’s over. That’s a cowards way out, it makes it easier to get away from a difficult situation but it’s not fair to the other person. If you know that the breakup will be permanent don’t try to sugar coat it by giving your partner false hope of a reconciliation.

If you’re in an unhappy relationship and you’ve tried everything to make things better but the fact is that you and your partner just aren’t that compatible than it’s time for you to leave. Use these tips to make the breakup as easy as possible, for both of you. Good luck.

If you’ve been with someone for a long time and have said, or thought, “our love has grown cold” then here are some things that may help you rekindle the passion you once had.

It is important to remember though that with any long term relationship passion tends to ebb and flow like the tides, and you may not both be at ‘high tide’ at the same time. This can be frustrating but it’s important to understand that it’s perfectly normal and it isn’t any kind of rejection from your partner and it’s not a sign that your relationship is doomed.

This is especially true as you both start to get a little older and / or the stress of work, and family come into play. At these times it’s very important that the two of you are able to talk to each other openly and honestly.

Here are some things you can do to spice things up, some of these are fairly common but others may be new to you, have fun:

1. What did the two of you like to do when you first met? What type of dates did you go on, how did you dress. I’ll bet you both spent more time on your appearance when you first started dating than you do now. This is a simple thing to change. Make your next date night an adventure, really dress up and make it something memorable. Get ready in separate bathrooms if possible so you can regain some of that excitement of seeing each other all dressed up and looking good.

We all tend to fall into ruts and it can really help the two of you feel a connection if you try to recapture some of that early excitement.

2. Everyone wants to feel special and loved, and what better way to make your partner feel loved and special than to surprise them with a little gift, on a Tuesday ( or any day that isn’t a ’special’ day). If you’re going out to get groceries, or dinner, or to the dry cleaners, why not pick up something for your sweetie? It doesn’t have to be anything expensive, and it doesn’t have to just be flowers or candy, but make it something that you know your mate would enjoy.

Maybe a silly card that will make them laugh, how about that movie they’ve always loved, a silly little stuffed animal, whatever. Just as long as it’s something that would have a personal meaning for your partner. Jewelry may be a great gift for some people but it is such a cliche that it may just not seem that personal.

Before you pick out a gift think about the person you’re buying it for and make it something special for them. Don’t limit yourself to candy or jewelry because that’s what the t.v. ads make you think you should do, consider if it’s something your partner would really like…that’s what makes a really great gift.

3. To truly rekindle passion you need to be relaxed, both of you. So if you want to do something special why not take a day and go to a spa for massages? Then out to a nice restaurant, and maybe a play or movie then home to a night of love. Spending the day together doing nothing but relaxing and enjoying each others company is the best way to deepen your bond and increase intimacy.

So, the next time you have the thought: “our love has grown cold” just remember that there are some simple, and fun, things you can do to increase the intimacy between you and your partner.